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Wednesday, 12 July 2017

Moments of Distress: The Bigger Picture

After a couple of episodes of extreme distress, as mentioned in my previous post, I felt like I had taken steps backwards. I felt angry with myself, felt like giving up. I felt angry and felt like self-sabotaging. I felt like I had gone backwards and told myself I didn't care now what happened.

But I managed to let those feelings pass. I tried to just let it crash over me like a huge wave. I was drowning in it, sitting on a train feeling desperate and scared. 

As it began to pass, I decided to pick myself up and make a list on my phone of the good things I have in my life.

I needed to remind myself that actually- in spite of feeling extremely distressed in that moment- things are actually going really well for me at the moment. One in the moment feeling is not an accurate picture of my life as a whole.

Making lists like this is one of my coping strategies. Here it is:

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It doesn't matter how big or small the things on this list are. If it's something you feel good about in your life, it's worth adding it to the list. I wrote that I love my clothes right now! It can be anything at all! Even something tiny like seeing a lovely tree or smelling fruit in a shop.

Photo by me. Noticing the little things

As I can get a lot of anxiety about my social relationships, when I am distressed thinking about people can be triggering for me, so sometimes my list of 'distress tolerance' skills would be more like: coffee, tea, Harry Potter, shower gel, incense.

Let me know how you get on if you do a list! I would love to know! Tweet me @TalkingAboutBPD.

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